Hating Your Best Friend's Boyfriend

It's an awkward situation, one that a lot of us have been in before. After weeks of your friend going on about this guy, you meet him and you hate him. Sometimes you can't even put your finger on what it is, other-times it's blatantly obvious. Immediately you secretly write him off and pray that they won't be together forever, or you'll have to hide your hatred during their wedding day (you'll obvi be bridesmaid). You plot and plan his demise (ok, not literally) but you know you can't let on to her. 

Third wheelin'

So what do you do?

SPEND TIME WITH HIM. You might hate him now, but once you get to know him properly it could be a different story. After all, clearly there is a reason that she likes him, and hopefully after spending some time with him you might see it too. Plus, if they have stuff in common and you have stuff in common with her, surely you'll be able to find something you guys can talk about or bond over.

SPEND TIME WITH THEM TOGETHER. Seeing how they interact and how "into" one another they are could help you change your mind on him. It might help you to see that really they are suited, and that he isn't so bad after-all. Alternatively it could go completely the other way, but you've just gotta' take the risk!

DON'T LET HER KNOW. Although she'll probably be able to figure it out (depending on how well you're able to hide your emotions) telling her that you don't like him is a no-go. Her knowing that you don't like him is unlikely to change her opinion on him. Instead, she's likely to think that you're just being a judgemental cow or that you're jealous, and that's not going to get you anywhere.

BE SUPPORTIVE. There's always that temptation to say "I told you so" when things go wrong, but if they get back together or work things out, you're going to look bad. Instead, try to have her back with things. Eventually she'll probably see that she was an idiot, but she doesn't need you to tell her that to figure it out. She'll do that on her own.

THIS CHANGES NOTHING. You're still going to be friends whether she has a boyfriend that you like or not. Things aren't going to change drastically, perhaps the dynamics might alter slightly, but it's nothing you can't cope with. Just enjoy your friendship, don't let things like this get between you.

Second Year in Photos (Part 2)

January

As a January baby, this is one of my favourite months. As a university student, it means refreshers fest and getting back to "the grind". I spent much of January celebrating and partying with all me chums (top row & bottom left). We also had the lovely surprise of finding a rat in our house, which had made itself at home over the Christmas holidays! I've been so kind as to spare you guys the gross photos, so you can have my artistic example instead (bottom right).

February

February was equally full of fun and frolics. My chums and I attended a cocktail making event as part of the fundraising for UoB marrow soc (top left). Valentines day cards from anonymous sources a.k.a. my dad and my bessie, lol (top right). Feeling fab 'n' fresh at our regular student union night out... #theawkwardmomentwhen you have to crop one of the twins to square the photo (bottom left). My friend Joe made the long and tedious trip from Plymouth to visit (bottom right).

March

March brought with it a fair amount of birthday celebrations - they always seem to come in bunches. I trekked across to Norwich and partied with the freshers, as well as friends from back home (top left), before returning back to reunite with friends on a night out in Brum (top right). As always, all of my essay deadlines coincided with all of the nights out and culminated in me getting ill. Here I am with my lifelong pal, bunnyhops (bottom left). Finally, we discovered a thief in our midst when my housemate's chocolate was taken during pre drinks one evening. We're still looking for the culprit (bottom right).

April

Easter break meant a month spent back at home with family (top left & right), as well as out and about with friends. I visited both Whipsnade (bottom left) and Knole House (bottom right), both of which were absolutely stunning.

May

As a student of an essay-based subject, it's work all year round, which means it's actually quite quiet in the exam period. Of course, I kept myself busy, as usual. Baking with the boy was a welcome break from revision (top left) and my trip to oxford was amazing (top right). Becca and I hit the bullring (bottom left), and I popped back home for my cousins's wedding celebrations (bottom right).

June

Finally, end of exams meant even more celebrating (as if we ever needed an excuse). As a member of the bloodsoc committee I took part in a #nationalbloodweek "photoshoot" on campus (top left). If you didn't see the campaign, it's definitely something worth checking out. We enjoyed vale fest, particularly the facepaint and flower crowns (top right). I had giggles with my favourite lads and future housemates (bottom left). Then enjoyed gradball with the boy (bottom right).