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I have four female house-mates and one male house-mate (bless his little cotton socks). I think at times his experiences in our house would be described as hell-ish, but he doesn't seem to mind... too much. One bonus he does have, other than living with five beautiful ladies, is getting unlimited advice on women (whether it's asked for or not...). Sometimes he'll ask me what I think a girl would prefer and it's down to the individual lady, but other times I know exactly what she'd want - it just depends upon the issue we're discussing. Anyway, it made me think, what do girls really want? So during a lecture (oops) my brain got buzzing and I jotted it all down and here I am FINALLY sharing it with all of you!
So, here goes... Reading it back it's sort of more of a guide to first dates, but that's cool too right?
COMPLIMENT HER. I'm sure that this goes for guys too, but a compliment never did anyone any harm. Be truthful and genuine, what did you first notice about her? What do you find attractive about her? Personal compliments are the sweetest and always brighten someone's day. Try to let her know you're interested without sounding creepy - there's a fine line!
MAKE HER LAUGH. First of all, you want to be with a girl who has the same sense of humour as you and the best way to find this out is to make light hearted jokes and hope that she finds them funny. Play it safe with the jokes, probably best not to delve into any deep issues, even if you are trying to make light of them. Show your sense of humour, get a sense of hers. Try not to be too sarcastic because it can be quite hard to sense sarcasm when you first get to know someone, and you don't want her to accidentally take you seriously.
LISTEN TO HER. This sounds like a dumb thing to have to say, but take in what she's saying. Even if you're not actually interested get her to expand on the things she's talking about by asking questions. If it truly is really boring to you then you can always ask a question which tries to change the subject!
BE "CHEEKY". Sometimes it's important to show your playful side. Flirt a little and maybe even throw a couple of euphemisms in there. If that's not your kind of thing that's still cool, you'll find other ways of flirting and letting her know you're interested.
DON'T BE SHY. There's nothing worse than a surplus of awkward moments. First dates can be super awkward anyway so you don't want to make them worse! Show your true colours and be confident about it - what's the worst that could happen? Try not to be over confident or cocky though, that's a total turn-off.
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE. If you're into her then you don't have to just let her know vocally. Think about what your body language is saying - how you are sitting, how close you stand next to her, how you use your hands when you're talking to her, or what you're looking at when she's talking to you.
ASSESS HER BODY LANGUAGE. Read what she is telling you without really telling you. Her body language will tell you everything you need to know, and show you things that she can't hide.
I have four female house-mates and one male house-mate (bless his little cotton socks). I think at times his experiences in our house would be described as hell-ish, but he doesn't seem to mind... too much. One bonus he does have, other than living with five beautiful ladies, is getting unlimited advice on women (whether it's asked for or not...). Sometimes he'll ask me what I think a girl would prefer and it's down to the individual lady, but other times I know exactly what she'd want - it just depends upon the issue we're discussing. Anyway, it made me think, what do girls really want? So during a lecture (oops) my brain got buzzing and I jotted it all down and here I am FINALLY sharing it with all of you!
So, here goes... Reading it back it's sort of more of a guide to first dates, but that's cool too right?
COMPLIMENT HER. I'm sure that this goes for guys too, but a compliment never did anyone any harm. Be truthful and genuine, what did you first notice about her? What do you find attractive about her? Personal compliments are the sweetest and always brighten someone's day. Try to let her know you're interested without sounding creepy - there's a fine line!
MAKE HER LAUGH. First of all, you want to be with a girl who has the same sense of humour as you and the best way to find this out is to make light hearted jokes and hope that she finds them funny. Play it safe with the jokes, probably best not to delve into any deep issues, even if you are trying to make light of them. Show your sense of humour, get a sense of hers. Try not to be too sarcastic because it can be quite hard to sense sarcasm when you first get to know someone, and you don't want her to accidentally take you seriously.
LISTEN TO HER. This sounds like a dumb thing to have to say, but take in what she's saying. Even if you're not actually interested get her to expand on the things she's talking about by asking questions. If it truly is really boring to you then you can always ask a question which tries to change the subject!
BE "CHEEKY". Sometimes it's important to show your playful side. Flirt a little and maybe even throw a couple of euphemisms in there. If that's not your kind of thing that's still cool, you'll find other ways of flirting and letting her know you're interested.
DON'T BE SHY. There's nothing worse than a surplus of awkward moments. First dates can be super awkward anyway so you don't want to make them worse! Show your true colours and be confident about it - what's the worst that could happen? Try not to be over confident or cocky though, that's a total turn-off.
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE. If you're into her then you don't have to just let her know vocally. Think about what your body language is saying - how you are sitting, how close you stand next to her, how you use your hands when you're talking to her, or what you're looking at when she's talking to you.
ASSESS HER BODY LANGUAGE. Read what she is telling you without really telling you. Her body language will tell you everything you need to know, and show you things that she can't hide.
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