Relationships At Uni

Relationships whilst at university are a difficult one. Juggling spending time with a significant other, doing work and having a social life can be tricky, but they're (mostly) worth the effort. Here are my top tips:

MAKE IT EQUAL: make sure that you are giving the same amount that you are receiving. Sometimes if you end up making more effort, spending more money or giving more time to a relationship, you begin to feel resentful towards the other person. Try and make sure that you both spend an equal amount of time at one another's houses, and if you go out on a date try and both pay for certain aspects, take it turns to pay or just pay for yourselves!

COMMUNICATION: people always say communication is key and they're right. Making sure that you keep up communications with your significant other is really important, but that doesn't mean that they have to be at your beckoned call all the time. Schedule skype sessions or phone calls and make sure that you keep to those allotted times, making time for one another is really important and you don't let them down, or feel let down yourself. Then again, don't expect them to reply to you instantly all the time, it's not realistic or healthy.

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MAKE THEM FEEL SPECIAL: the smallest things can make the biggest difference. Let them know you're thinking of them, listen to them and make time for them. It's easy to do something small, but thoughtful, for them and it will make them feel really appreciated.

ARGUE IT OUT: a lot of the time people are scared of arguments because they want to avoid conflict in a relationship, but I would say that they're good for them. If you have an argument you usually dispute over something which is important to the both of you, it allows you to put your opinion across and sometimes put things out there which you may have not necessarily spoken about otherwise. If you can argue without fear of someone over reacting and blowing things out of proportion then you should be able to resolve most disputes. Make sure that you don't go to bed angry with one another - try and resolve things before that, though sometimes it is good to sleep on it.

BALANCE IT WELL: as I said before, it can be hard to make time for a relationship when you have so many other things going on. Try and get the balance right. Make time for your significant other but try to not let it get in the way of uni and seeing your friends. Sometimes it helps to plan ahead and keep organised, that way you know when things start to compromise others. 

TRUST ONE ANOTHER: the foundation of a relationship should be trust. Trust is so important because without it you are left feeling jealous, suspicious and uncomfortable. Do your best to be a trustworthy person, and do your best to trust in your partner. Be honest with one another and own up to your mistakes, flaws and issues.